Saturday, July 08, 2006
If somebody - who is neither a stranger nor a friend to you - asks for your number, is it possible to decline politely? How can you decline without coming off as too "feeling"? It is common sense to know that it doesn't necessarily mean that a person has, shall we say, some sort of "special attraction" just because he asks for your number or he pays you some extra attention. I mean, you wouldn't really know for sure what the other person's real intentions are. Some may just want to have it for networking purposes, for future reference or for business, nothing more. Assumptions are rather very subjective. Assumptions are nothing more than unfounded pieces of self-defined truths.
I guess giving away one's number is harmless. However, constant messages can be really annoying most especially if the other person couldn't take the hint that, assumptions aside, unless it's work or business related, you're just not interested.
Worse, no matter how hard you try you just can't seem to ride with all the forwarded jokes or messages. Blame it on having totally different wavelengths, I guess. It's not so much about pre-judging a person. You don't feel like responding just because it makes you feel uneasy and in some cases, it's just not right - literally and figuratively speaking. The last thing that you would want to do is to send the wrong signal by replying just out of courtesy.
Worst, it has reached the point when you no longer want to bother reading the messages anymore and you automatically look for the delete option. Messages sent irritate you because either it's too duh, bordering on jologs, cheesy or pa-cute. Bottom line is, coming from that person, hindi lang talaga bagay. You couldn't fathom what the hell that person is trying to do or prove. Don't you just hate it when a person acts and speaks differently to you in non-verbal forms of communication as he would face-to-face?
Lest that feelings will be hurt, you take the subtle route of no reaction. How hard can it be to ignore a person, right? And if non-response is not enough, maybe it's about time to take drastic measures such as flat out, in your face rejection.
I guess giving away one's number is harmless. However, constant messages can be really annoying most especially if the other person couldn't take the hint that, assumptions aside, unless it's work or business related, you're just not interested.
Worse, no matter how hard you try you just can't seem to ride with all the forwarded jokes or messages. Blame it on having totally different wavelengths, I guess. It's not so much about pre-judging a person. You don't feel like responding just because it makes you feel uneasy and in some cases, it's just not right - literally and figuratively speaking. The last thing that you would want to do is to send the wrong signal by replying just out of courtesy.
Worst, it has reached the point when you no longer want to bother reading the messages anymore and you automatically look for the delete option. Messages sent irritate you because either it's too duh, bordering on jologs, cheesy or pa-cute. Bottom line is, coming from that person, hindi lang talaga bagay. You couldn't fathom what the hell that person is trying to do or prove. Don't you just hate it when a person acts and speaks differently to you in non-verbal forms of communication as he would face-to-face?
Lest that feelings will be hurt, you take the subtle route of no reaction. How hard can it be to ignore a person, right? And if non-response is not enough, maybe it's about time to take drastic measures such as flat out, in your face rejection.
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